Finding Self After Betrayal

Finding Self After Betrayal is a betrayal trauma recovery course built on The Rabbit Hole of Betrayal, an experiential framework developed by Diane Hovey, PhD, LMFT-S, CSAT-S, CPT, for understanding and moving through betrayal.

betrayal trauma recovery course

Something shifted. Maybe it happened all at once, or maybe it crept in slowly until the ground felt different under your feet.

Betrayal trauma can do that. It can take what once felt stable and turn it into something disorienting, unreal, or hard to trust again.

If any part of that sounds familiar, this betrayal trauma recovery course was built with you in mind.

It is not about rushing toward decisions or answers. It is about giving you space to understand what happened, and to begin finding your footing again.

Live Interactive Course facilitated by Mary McNamara and Natalie Giwoyna

Developed by Diane Hovey, PhD, LMFT-S, CSAT-S, CPT

Details:

$295 – Introductory rate for this cohort

6 weeks

90-minute weekly sessions

Fridays at 12pm-1:30pm
October 9th, 16th, 23rd, 30th & November 6th and 13th.

Current course contributors: Mary McNamara, MA, LPCC, CSAT and Natalie Giwoyna, MA

What this course is designed to do:

Finding Self After Betrayal follows The Rabbit Hole of Betrayal- For Those Who Have Been Betrayed, a framework built around these phases:

Phase One: The Fall Into an Altered Reality

The destabilizing impact of betrayal: discovery, loss, shattered assumptions, and the relentless search for answers.)

Phase Two: The Journey Through Deception, Disentangling Self

Moving through distortion, illusion, conflicting realities, and the influence of deception while gradually separating what happened from what gets to define the self.

Phase Three: Where Do I Go From Here? Living Beyond the Rabbit Hole

The movement toward agency, congruence, possibility, and becoming—shifting from a life organized around betrayal toward one increasingly shaped by the person living it.

The course is designed for those who have experienced betrayal in intimate relationships, families, friendships, communities, organizations, faith communities, institutions, or other relationships in which trust has been established and violated

The Six-Week Journey

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Week 1 — Rabbit Hole: The Fall Into an Altered Reality

We begin with the rupture—the shock, disbelief, and disorientation that can follow betrayal. When what you thought you knew no longer seems to fit, even familiar ground can feel uncertain. This week creates space to notice what has changed and begin orienting yourself within this altered reality.

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Week 2 — Life’s Assumptions: Shattered Beliefs

Betrayal can expose assumptions we didn't realize we were carrying—about love, trust, safety, commitment, ourselves, and other people. This week explores what happens when those assumptions no longer hold and the questions that emerge in their place.

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Week 3 — The Spiral of Losses

The loss following betrayal is rarely just one loss. What happened can ripple into identity, relationships, memories, expectations, belonging, and imagined futures. This week explores the many losses that can become intertwined and the emotions that accompany them.

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Week 4 — Wrong-Size Options & The Hallway of Doors

When everything has changed, the available choices may all seem wrong—or impossible to make. Stay? Leave? Forgive? Confront? Wait? This week explores the pressure to choose, the doors that seem available, and what it is like when none of them seem to fit.

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Week 5 — Opening the Door: Responsibility and Choice

Betrayal can leave you feeling as though someone else’s choices have taken over your life. This week explores responsibility, choice, and the places where your own voice and participation begin to reappear—not responsibility for causing the betrayal, but the choices that are yours as you decide what comes next.

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Week 6 — Chasing White Rabbits: The Search for Answers

The search for answers can become its own Rabbit Hole. One question leads to another. New information can change the meaning of what came before, and the promise of just one more answer can be difficult to leave behind. This week explores the pursuit itself: what you are searching for, what answers can and cannot provide, and what you are noticing along the way.

Phase One: The Fall Into an Altered Reality

The first of three phases in The Rabbit Hole of Betrayal framework, and the starting point of Finding Self After Betrayal.

The Fall Into an Altered Reality creates space to explore what happens when betrayal disrupts what you thought you knew.

Over six weeks, you will have opportunities to:

Explore the disbelief and disorientation that can follow betrayal
Notice the assumptions about trust, relationships, yourself, and your future that may no longer seem to fit
Give language to the losses that extend beyond the betrayal itself
Explore the pressure to make decisions when none of the available choices seem quite right
Consider the difference between blame, responsibility, and the choices that remain yours
Look more closely at the pursuit of answers, and what you hope those answers will make possible

Phase One does not ask you to know where the journey will lead. It gives you room to notice where you are.

Who Might Find Phase One Useful?

Phase One may be useful if you find yourself:

Questioning what you thought you knew after betrayal
Replaying events, conversations, or details as you try to understand what happened
Discovering that one answer seems to lead to another question
Facing choices that don’t yet seem to fit
Trying to understand losses that extend beyond the relationship itself
Wondering what belongs to you now, your choices, your responsibility, your voice, and what comes next

Finding Self After Betrayal is a psychoeducational and experiential course, not psychotherapy. Phase One is designed for exploration and reflection rather than immediate couples repair or intensive trauma processing. If you are looking for individual or couples therapy, we can help you explore those options separately.

Choose How You Want to Experience Phase One

The same Rabbit Hole journey can be explored independently or experienced with others.

The difference is not the material, it is what becomes possible through skilled facilitation, conversation, and shared perspective.

Experience It Together: Six-Week Live Facilitated Group

Move through Phase One: The Fall Into An Altered Reality with a small group and two trained professionals.

Over six weekly 90-minute sessions, the exercises and metaphors become starting points for conversation, exploration, and shared discovery. Hearing what others notice can open perspectives you may not encounter on your own. Facilitators help deepen the exploration, asking questions, making connections, and creating room for what emerges without prescribing what you should discover.

The live experience includes:

Six weekly 90-minute facilitated sessions
A small, closed group
Guided experiential activities and discussion
Opportunities to hear and explore different perspectives
Space to ask questions and explore what emerges
Digital Phase One workbook and course materials

Introductory rate for this cohort: $295

Join the Live Facilitated Group

Explore It On Your Own: Self-guided experience

Prefer to explore privately or at your own pace? The self-guided experience provides the Phase One material for independent exploration.

Move through the stories, metaphors, reflections, and experiential activities when and where you choose. There is no live facilitator or group discussion, leaving you free to spend as much time as you wish with what captures your attention.

The self-guided experience includes: