Finding Self After Betrayal
Finding Self After Betrayal is a self-guided betrayal trauma recovery course built on The Rabbit Hole of Betrayal, an experiential framework developed by Diane Hovey, PhD, LMFT-S, CSAT-S, CPT, for understanding and moving through betrayal.
betrayal trauma recovery course
Something shifted. Maybe it happened all at once, or maybe it crept in slowly until the ground felt different under your feet.
Betrayal trauma can do that. It can take what once felt stable and turn it into something disorienting, unreal, or hard to trust again.
If any part of that sounds familiar, this betrayal trauma recovery course was built with you in mind.
It is not about rushing toward decisions or answers. It is about giving you space to understand what happened, and to begin finding your footing again.
Self-Guided Course
Developed by Diane Hovey, PhD, LMFT-S, CSAT-S, CPT
Details:
Rate: $49
6 weekly lessons with experiential activities
Flexible, self-paced access
Prerecorded video presentations by Dr. Hovey
What this course is designed to do:
Finding Self After Betrayal follows The Rabbit Hole of Betrayal- For Those Who Have Been Betrayed, a framework built around these phases:
Phase One: The Fall Into an Altered Reality
The destabilizing impact of betrayal: discovery, loss, shattered assumptions, and the relentless search for answers.
Phase Two: The Journey Through Deception, Disentangling Self
Moving through distortion, illusion, conflicting realities, and the influence of deception while gradually separating what happened from what gets to define the self.
Phase Three: Where Do I Go From Here? Living Beyond the Rabbit Hole
The movement toward agency, congruence, possibility, and becoming—shifting from a life organized around betrayal toward one increasingly shaped by the person living it.
The course is designed for those who have experienced betrayal in intimate relationships, families, friendships, communities, organizations, faith communities, institutions, or other relationships in which trust has been established and violated
The Six-Week Journey
Week 1 — Rabbit Hole: The Fall Into an Altered Reality
We begin with the rupture—the shock, disbelief, and disorientation that can follow betrayal. When what you thought you knew no longer seems to fit, even familiar ground can feel uncertain. This week creates space to notice what has changed and begin orienting yourself within this altered reality.
Week 2 — Life’s Assumptions: Shattered Beliefs
Betrayal can expose assumptions we didn't realize we were carrying—about love, trust, safety, commitment, ourselves, and other people. This week explores what happens when those assumptions no longer hold and the questions that emerge in their place.
Week 3 — The Spiral of Losses
The loss following betrayal is rarely just one loss. What happened can ripple into identity, relationships, memories, expectations, belonging, and imagined futures. This week explores the many losses that can become intertwined and the emotions that accompany them.
Week 4 — Wrong-Size Options & The Hallway of Doors
When everything has changed, the available choices may all seem wrong—or impossible to make. Stay? Leave? Forgive? Confront? Wait? This week explores the pressure to choose, the doors that seem available, and what it is like when none of them seem to fit.
Week 5 — Opening the Door: Responsibility and Choice
Betrayal can leave you feeling as though someone else’s choices have taken over your life. This week explores responsibility, choice, and the places where your own voice and participation begin to reappear—not responsibility for causing the betrayal, but the choices that are yours as you decide what comes next.
Week 6 — Chasing White Rabbits: The Search for Answers
The search for answers can become its own Rabbit Hole. One question leads to another. New information can change the meaning of what came before, and the promise of just one more answer can be difficult to leave behind. This week explores the pursuit itself: what you are searching for, what answers can and cannot provide, and what you are noticing along the way.
Phase One: The Fall Into an Altered Reality
The first of three phases in The Rabbit Hole of Betrayal framework, and the starting point of Finding Self After Betrayal.
The Fall Into an Altered Reality creates space to explore what happens when betrayal disrupts what you thought you knew.
Over six weeks, you will have opportunities to:
- Explore the disbelief and disorientation that can follow betrayal
- Notice the assumptions about trust, relationships, yourself, and your future that may no longer seem to fit
- Give language to the losses that extend beyond the betrayal itself
- Explore the pressure to make decisions when none of the available choices seem quite right
- Consider the difference between blame, responsibility, and the choices that remain yours
- Look more closely at the pursuit of answers, and what you hope those answers will make possible
Phase One does not ask you to know where the journey will lead. It gives you room to notice where you are.
Who Might Find Phase One Useful?
Phase One may be useful if you find yourself:
- Questioning what you thought you knew after betrayal
- Replaying events, conversations, or details as you try to understand what happened
- Discovering that one answer seems to lead to another question
- Facing choices that don’t yet seem to fit
- Trying to understand losses that extend beyond the relationship itself
- Wondering what belongs to you now, your choices, your responsibility, your voice, and what comes next
Finding Self After Betrayal is a psychoeducational and experiential course, not psychotherapy. Phase One is designed for exploration and reflection rather than immediate couples repair or intensive trauma processing. If you are looking for individual or couples therapy, we can help you explore those options separately.
Experience Phase One at Your Own Pace
The Self-Guided Experience
Explore privately, at your own pace. The self-guided experience provides the Phase One material for independent exploration.
Move through the stories, metaphors, reflections, and experiential activities when and where you choose. There is no live facilitator or group discussion, leaving you free to spend as much time as you wish with what captures your attention.
The self-guided experience includes:
- Complete Phase One digital workbook
- Phase One course material
- 6 weekly lessons with experiential activities
- Dr. Hovey’s prerecorded video presentations guiding you through the course material and workbook
- Flexible, self-paced access
- Private, independent exploration
Rate: $49
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