Healthy sexual expression is a normal, healthy part of being human. And just like our shapes, sizes, likes, and dislikes vary, so do our sexual desires. Unfortunately, like so many other aspects of life, likes and desires can grow beyond healthy enjoyment into obsessions and/or harmful behaviors that threaten our own, and others well-being. Like other addictions, especially behavioral addiction such as gambling, eating disorders, and gaming, problematic sexual behavior is when life balance is lost and the need to feed the problematic behavior takes over life. The person with the problematic behavior is in a state of denial, believing that their choices are their own without any impact on others. They may live in this state for a long time before reality sets in. A reality strike occurs in many ways. It may be the partner who leaves, the arrest, loss of job, exposure, or pain to self or others that can no longer be denied. The signs of sex addiction are unique to every patient struggling with these compulsions. Still, some symptoms are relatively reliable indicators. Do you or someone you love:
If you answered “yes” to more than one of these questions, sex addiction could be the cause.
Most therapists do not have the training to address problematic sexual behavior. We do. This is important in identifying and guiding our clients toward healing. What some may find surprising is that problematic sexual behavior often has little to do with sex. Attachment wounds, intimacy disorders, and trauma can play important roles. For some it is conditioning, the unending availability of unhealthy sexual content that has become so invasive in our culture. It is complex interweaving variables that must be addressed, teased apart, and relearned to revitalize healthy sexuality. The partners and family members who have been impacted also need the opportunity for healing. Without this, the system remains vulnerable to the repetition of addiction, betrayal, and pain. We value and honor the courage and strength it takes to engage in this healing journey. Contact us today to take the first step on a journey of healing and self-improvement.
If you find yourself preoccupied with out-of-control sexual thoughts and desires, or feelings of shame for having deeply hurt others because of your sexual behaviors, you may be struggling with a sex or love addiction.
Sex addiction and compulsive sexual behaviors has a profound impact on families. The associated behaviors of sex addiction often lead to a loss of trust, intimacy, and respect.
The goal of therapy is to set a foundation for healing from the hurts, shame, lack of intimacy and the destructive behaviors that have shaped your current condition. We work with you to build a plan and develop skills necessary for recovery. Through this process it is possible to recover the core of who you are and who you wish to become, and to live a fully engaged, rewarding life.